There's a reason our memory starts to fade as we get older, it's so we can forget those difficult bits of child rearing. Remember shortly after childbirth when the nurses assured you that you'd forget the pain of labor and delivery? They were right, otherwise there would never be a second child.
I've seriously got to quit reading the mommy blogs. They're giving me a headache. I'm not trying to be rude or anything. At first I thought it would be cool to read and offer advice from the other side, so to speak. But I can't. It's very stressful jumping back in the land of carpools, soccer games and homework, if only through the words of others.
Reading their stuff just brings back things I'd rather forget. That's the beauty of being on the other side. You can put the three P's (pee, poop, puke) behind you, unless of course you're caring for elderly parents, then all bets are off. You can focus on the high points of their childhood and not the two year stretch where your husband was in Canada from Monday to Friday. Those were the years you reverted to speaking like a three-year-old and lost millions of brain cells.
When I first started this blog I sat down and wrote a mission statement because the Farmer has always drummed it in my head that before you launch on any serious endeavor you need to put your intentions down in writing. Having a mission statement helps you stay focused and remember why you started in the first place. Mine read "To create a multi-generational community of women who can share their knowledge and experience for the benefit of all." Sounds good, but the problem is I don't see a lot of multi-generational mingling going on across the board. Is it possible?
Where are the teen mom blogs? In all of my web surfing I've never seen one. I think they're simply shell shocked and like Maria Shriver, they sit in their closets and meditate. Perhaps they just can't get on their computers because their teenagers are tying it up doing homework or playing computer games.
I did offer some advice on one or two of the mommy blogs and it didn't go over very well. Perhaps they feel some of us are too far removed from the experience to know what's happening in today's world of parenting. I'm trying to remember if I was open to advice from someone who'd been through it, or did I rely on my contemporaries who were going through the same things in real time?
That's the thing though. The fog of forgetting has done it's job.
I can't remember.