Is it a full moon? Is there something in the water?
In the past week we've learned of two broken engagements and one impending divorce, all initiated by the woman in the relationship.
The two engaged women used the EXACT same expression, "I wasn't head-over-heels".
Huh? What? Have they been watching too many Disney movies? How do they define head-over-heels?
I'm a dinosaur who met the Farmer over 35 years ago and I'm well aware that culture and relationships have changed. The women's movement made it possible for women to create a life for themselves with or without a man. But something has changed in the process. I don't get the feeling that young people understand the concept of going through life as a team. They've widened their net with lots of friends, all connected by internet and cell phones, but the connections seem thin and tenuous. How about one TRUSTED and loving partner to share your life with?
The divorce situation is very puzzling to me. The woman has stated (14 years into the marriage) that she never really loved this man. Seriously??? Why in the world would you do that? Was it not an "exciting life"?
Believe me, I find today's young men to be a dream. They care about their children and they COOK. The man in the divorce situation does all the cooking. My generation admires this trait tremendously.
One thing I learned when I was in therapy was that if you feel that something is missing in your life, you need to look inside of yourself. Life isn't some fairy tale existence, it's hard work.
I'm proud and happy to have someone who is honest, hard working and truly cares about me and creating a life together and I'm sad that young people are somehow missing the boat on this one.
As for the Farmer and me, we're a team! Yay team!!!!